Perspective, and keeping it positive.

So I’ve been doing my best to share as much as I can with you guys about real life shit. No one is perfect, and that includes myself. So much has been going on in my life for the past 2.5 years, and I’m finally starting to view things in a different light. I’m learning just how important a fresh, positive, and healthy perspective is to your life. It is so vital to have a positive outlook, because if not, you will only bring forth negativity. That negativity will invade whether you’re cognizant or not.

Take it from ya girl, it is SO EASY to get lost in a negative headspace. I’m talking so easy, that before we know it, we’re not only harming ourselves, but can easily inflict that harm onto those around us, even those that we deeply love. 

Nothing worth having is easy, I know this now by experience. It is so easy to fall into a negative mindset. It’s a fight you have to fight every single day (at least for me) to stay in a positive space. Some of us are stronger than others, some of us have gone through different struggles, and some of us are just in different places in our lives and thought process. These are all okay.

I personally am finding new ways to stay positive for myself, to be able to reflect that positivity onto those in my life. I’ve mentioned a few blog posts back that I do not come from healthy communication, let alone communication period. Realizing that has been a blessing because I am working on refocusing my thoughts and using more appropriate words when I speak life on myself and others. To those I have affected in my journey, I sincerely apologize.

For so long I hadn’t realized that I was only digging a deeper, negative hole for myself and it was all because of my perspective. Perspective is a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view. As I mentioned, it’s so easy to fall into negative thoughts, and allow yourself to really believe negative things, subconsciously.

I read somewhere “don’t believe everything you think”. That’s stuck with me so much because until recently I would literally believe everything I thought, which was mostly negative at a point in my life. I would question every single thing because I wasn’t aware of myself. I lacked confidence. I was lost in a season that God placed me to grow in. I wasn’t aware that I was dealing with such fragile emotions in an unhealthy way. 

So what are some healthy ways to keep your perspective fresh? Acknowledgement is first. We have to take a step back and look at our TRUE SELVES. Take a look around you. Give thanks for what you have, and do not dwell on the things you don’t. Give yourself affirmations of the glorious life you live, AS OFTEN AS YOU CAN! Do not dwell on negativity, like staying in a negative or sad mindset for long. Talk yourself out of it! Write down how you feel! Find healthy forms of releasing the negativity. Also, and this is a big one for me since I’m still learning it: TALK IT OUT. I really only knew how to rely on one person and that isn’t good. We have to get our feelings out. Talk to a friend, a family member, a therapist. Anyone who can allow you to release your negatives in a POSITIVE way.

Remember you only get one life, so make the most of it. Start everyday with the right perspective and nothing can stand in your way. For anyone out there consumed by negativity, I see you. I know what that feels like. PROMISE YOURSELF you won’t stop fighting. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, and you are worth the journey. Keep your best foot forward, and let positive thoughts flow through you. 

Sending you love and light ♥️

xx